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Back in the 70’s and 80’s, many young girls growing up dreamed of being a princess, a wife, a mother and usually involved marrying Prince Charming. They loved to wear dresses and play with their dolls/Barbies.
I’m not that type of girl.
I wanted to play sports, to be an athlete. I didn’t mind getting dirty. I didn’t want to be the Princess who was saved by Prince Charming. I wanted to save myself. I wanted to be involved in the action.
The Day Everything Changed
It wasn’t until I saw first saw Carrie Fisher as Princess Leia that I realized I COULD BE that type of princess. It was the first time , there was a true female role model for someone like me. Princess Leia was my type of Princess.
She could be girly, get all dolled up and wear beautiful dresses. Leia also demanaded be a real part of the action, a vital member of the team and take no-BS from anyone. Princess Leia was also smart, sarcastic and witty. It didn’t matter who it was , she was her own woman!
Mary Tyler Moore was another such type of role model in her roles as Laura Petrie and Mary Richards. During her time in both of those roles, Mary injected a distinct realism into the life of their characters.
Laura Petrie was the first TV mom who were pants on a TV show. The CBS execs only wanted to allow her to wear them in 1 scene per episode. (isn’t that crazy??) Mary got her way and she became known for it. Her character showed us what real women were like and they certainly weren’t perfect beings just there to raise children, clean the house and do things for her husband. Laura could sing and dance and had a lot of smarts about her.
Mary Richards was another such character but definitely reflected what was happening in the 70’s. The character of Mary Richards showed her feminism, not by political rantings or burning her bra, but through her strength and tenacity. Her simple goodness and straightforward nature was her true power – but she always stayed true to her convictions and values.
Both of these women, Mary Tyler Moore and Carrie Fisher, showed me that I could be more than what my family or society thought I could be. They showed me a world that I could be truly what I wanted to be. I’m proud to say that I did just that.
Rest in peace Carrie and Mary — your legacy will live on in the hearts and minds of women and girls everywhere.
So let’s talk about Perimenopause …
I’ve been having weird symptoms for the last year. The night sweats, slightly irregular periods, and other symptoms didn’t really bother me much. It wasn’t until I thought I was pregnant at 43, (LOL obviously I wasn’t) that I thought…. what the heck is going on with me.
I finally decided to talk to my doctor about it all. He said, “well you’re in the beginning stages of perimenopause.” I thought what in the fresh hell are you talking about? I’m only in my early 40’s. I’m a little too young for that.
These days, my symptoms are increasingly getting worse. I have to be honest… I was starting to think that I was going crazy. The worse symptoms right now are the hot flashes, mood swings and anxiety.
During a lunch conversation with my friend (who is going through it too,) I realized I’m not alone. Like most women, I need to talk through this and what I’m experiencing. My husband is a great listener but I know it’s difficult for him to understand this experience.
According to WebMD, it usually starts in a woman’s 40s, but can start in her 30s or even earlier. The average length of perimenopause is 4 years, but for some women this stage may last only a few months or continue for 10 years.
After doing a bit of research on the subject, that there is an enormous amount of information out there about it. Just like with everything else in life, Perimenopause symptoms are different for everyone.
Some women will experience many of these and some hardly any at all. However, many health care professionals agree that their are several main symptoms that the majority of women experience:
- Irregular Periods; Quality and/or duration may change, or you may skip periods all together.
- Hot Flashes
- Trouble failing asleep and/or staying asleep
- Anxiety/Emotional changes. Some women have mood swings or feel grouchy, depressed, or worried.
- Headaches / Migraines
- Heart PalpitationFeeling that your heart is beating too fast or unevenly (palpitations).
- Problems with remembering or thinking clearly.
- Vaginal Dryness
- Loss of Libido
- Weight Gain
If you are starting to experience these types of symptoms, don’t ignore them. Make sure to speak to your doctor or health care professional about what your experiencing and what your treatment options are.
There is no reason to suffer in silence with any of this. Don’t be afraid to talk to others about this.
Share what you’re experiencing!
Feel free to share your thoughts, comments on this blog post, the Facebook page or even email me, if you need to talk/discuss/vent about this newest change in your life.
After all, We’re all in this together!
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Recently, at our final IEP meeting for Kay, one of the IEP team members remarked about how strong I have been over the years. Of course, I just smiled and said thank you.
I’ve heard this a few times during many of Kay’s trials and tribulations. Each and every time, I hear those words, I cringe a little inside. I completely understand what they are trying to say and I’m grateful for it.
What choice did I have?
I couldn’t walk away from her when the doctors diagnosed her with a brain injury, developmental delay, and vision issues. She needed her parents if she was to have a fighting chance at a normal life. The future was unclear for her. We barely knew what we were doing as first-time parents. We knew nothing about brain injuries, seizure disorders, or developmental delays.
She is my daughter and I was determined to do all I could for her.
I’ll be honest.. there were many times, I didn’t feel “strong.” There were days when all I wanted to was breakdown and cry. Times where I wanted to run away from it all. There were even days where I questioned every decision we made and even my faith in God as well as myself.
Why did God give this child to me? Was I the right person to be her mother?
Over the years, I realized exactly why Kay was given to Dan and I. Kay has taught me so much over the last 18 years. It is about overcoming the obstacles in your way, seeing the good in life and marching to the beat of our drum. When life gives us challenges, we have to face it head on and live for the moment.
18 years later
I don’t believe I’m this super strong person but I can accept that others see this trait in me. I’m incredibly blessed to have been on this journey. I know that I was meant to be her mama and she was meant to be our daughter.